January can suck. Let’s be real. It’s cold, dark, Christmas is over, and statistically, 80% of us have given up on our New Year’s resolutions (read about my very unexpected ones, here). So, I decided to write a kind of manifesto for 2017. A guide-meets-commitment list, to the things that I believe matter most, or can help most, when it comes to life goals.
I titled this post ‘Goals, not #Goals, because sometimes the ‘#goals’ you see online are just plain unrealistic, or worse, make you feel downright crappy about yourself. Furthermore, a lot of those social media #goals are about the perfect twerk or the perfect waistline, and I got sick of that being something we place so much importance on these days.
Back to you and I. Life can sometimes spiral, and become overwhelmingly busy. Women are particularly good at putting themselves last on a long list of priorities. But I want to put us back at the top of that list. I’m a firm believer that the smallest of changes can make the biggest difference. And, it’s easy to forget that there are so many elements in our lives that we do control. Ok, our paycheck, family members, lack of sleep etc – is predominantly out of our hands. But who we hang out with, what we eat, whether we exercise, what we read, how we think… that’s up to us.
I’ve just had a few precious days just outside LA, huddled away from shoots and filming, to regroup, think and do one of my favorite things: write. I love to write, it centers me again and helps me think straight. So here’s my manifesto… Fill your own answers to the below in too and let me know what you’re aiming for!
My Manifesto for 2017:
My biggest goal this year: to write, produce and host a documentary
How to make it happen: do my homework on the subject matter and write a pitch (I finished that today – yay!). Then, set up meetings with the people I know who could help make it.
I’m inspired by: My Mum and her strength, the thousands of men and women who marched for their rights recently, not only in the US but across the world. Style inspo? All the empowered and chic bloggers I follow, from Margo and Me to Blank Itinerary, The Chriselle Factor to Fashion Me Now.
I’ll stay active by: Working out at least three times a week – I do a mix of reformer pilates, Physique57 Barre class, Barry’s Bootcamp and Training Mate circuits. Walking rather than cabbing, when I’m in cities. Stretching when I’m on the road – whether that’s literally on the plane or in my hotel room.
I’m keeping: the positive people in my life as close as possible, and recognizing the difference between a true friend and a work acquaintance. In LA, the line is blurry often!
I will challenge myself by: striving to keep a better balance between work and play. By putting down boundaries, I want to learn to switch off more, but equally to throw everything I’ve got at making Front Roe bigger, and better!
I will step outside my comfort zone by: writing and giving talks to women all over the country… watch this space!
I will learn: to take the time to reflect, in order to be more creative. It’s important to be a dreamer, not just a doer. This quote by E. L. Konigsburg sums it up…especially for my fellow A-types! “Some days you must learn a great deal. But you should also have days when you allow what is already in you to swell up and touch everything. If you never let that happen, then you just accumulate facts, and they begin to rattle around inside of you.”
I will laugh: as much as possible. Even when I feel frustrated, or tired, I’m going to try and laugh at situations, because there’s always that split second of choice.
I shall geek out over: more documentaries (first up is Nothing Left Unsaid about Gloria Vanderbilt), more gallery trips (the Getty Villa is next) and also having a book on my bedside table that I actually read. I got ‘I Am Malala’ for Christmas and am ashamed to say I had not read it before now. I love to read. I studied English Literature at college, and yet I go months without a book in my hand, when life gets too busy. I miss disappearing into those fictional worlds where imagination and prose takes over.
The recipe I’ll master: rainbow bowls. Hey guys, I’m shooting low here ok! But I want to learn something that I’ll actually continue to make, that’s nourishing and yummy. So the rainbow grain and veggie bowls that cost a fortune in trendy cafes? Well, I’m going to be testing them out on the blog – so send me any favorites you already have!
I want to visit: Bermuda! I have not been since I was a kid and Mackenzie has never been. The pink beaches and old English charm is calling us!
I will support: the charity I’m ambassador for, Step Up Women’s Network. We mentor underprivileged high school girls and you can help be a mentor too, just check out www.suwn.org. I’m also going to support my peers – in particular the women in my industry I admire. Starting with hosting a dinner for them all!
I need to improve: my patience. Both with myself, and my loved ones. I run at a fast pace and need to remember it’s ok to slow down, and not rush at everything. I also need to remember that worrying never solved anything.
My favorite quote for right now: “None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an after thought. Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth that you’re carrying in your heart like hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There’s no time for anything else.” – Nanea Hoffman
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